As the whole world is going through the lows in this never-ending loop of problems, I talked in my last blog, I think it might be a good time to catch up on the past dues. I am sure the situation has distressed all of us. But sooner or later, it will be getting back to normal again. I was about to get married to this beautiful woman and that was the only “positive” that was actually positive. We also had the date, venue, and all the arrangements in place. It was supposed to be on the 8th of May. And today we were supposed to leave for our honeymoon. But let’s just focus on the brighter side of the moon.
So, I received her cell number and I texted her, pretty basic. It was early morning, I had some “leisure” time at work and she was about to call it a Monday. We began talking thereafter. But, let me rewind back in time a little. I was into dating apps before I knew about her. I gave it a try as my roommate recommended me to do so. I thought it would be worth a shot as I was single this whole time. Nevertheless, I seldom took these apps seriously as most of these girls would be far away or not what I was looking for. My ice breakers used to be lame poems and jokes, but it was fun experiencing that world. I also went on a couple of dates through my friends, but they didn’t lead anywhere. With no hesitation, I can say I am glad that none of those worked because this woman I am about to introduce is exactly what I needed to reunite the broken in me.
We were introduced by our parents for an arranged marriage setup. I know what you might be thinking! “Arrange Marriage” wut bro! We, the millennials have this social stigma of arranged marriages. I think we belong to a generation that has been romanticizing with Bollywood movies and un-romanticizing with daily Hindi Saas-Bahu soaps. It might be the case that we incline on the thought that the supposed love is being arranged and not happening of natural causes. Not only that, but we have experienced the family drama that has been around us. And as most of the marriages we have witnessed are arranged marriages we tend to develop this basic instinct to just run away from it and it might be justified. But I have a different and a polarized opinion of it. I believe that the means of meeting someone should not be the ultimate criterion. And how you live your marriage and the family drama really depends on you! It is completely avoidable. It is up to us to maintain decorum within the family. As soon as we told our parents that we were talking, their immediate response was to let them know “yes” or “no” within 2 days. I do not blame them for what they were asking, but their orthodox upbringing. But we convinced them to please let us take our time. I have learned over the years that we need to push back a little bit to get what you need, but with good intentions.
We began texting and talking in our overlapped awake hours. Our conversations typically were about knowing each other. Me living in the US and her, in India, made it a little difficult but who likes easy stuff, huh! But she used to make herself available in her busy schedule and I adored it immediately. We covered almost all of the topics that were important to us and even chatted about the future. We conversed about our past and laughed at our mistakes. She was super cool with it, but I was the one with insecurities. After a few weeks of chat and video calls, we did express our feelings or not I am not sure, but we seemed to be liking each other. I remember for our first video call I had gotten a haircut to look sharp. I think it worked. But still, we have not met in person yet. We did let our parents know that we were interested but let us meet first. It was after 6 months we met but until then I had already known her or how much ever I had known her, I was into her. She is like this ocean full of pearls in which I enjoyed taking dives. She was exactly what I had imagined, and I had ever wanted.
The day we met was like a relief. We decided to meet over for dinner at a classy restaurant. I was late for a few minutes because of traffic. I got off my Uber and there she was standing, waiting for me outside the lobby in her perfectly suited blue dress. Winds blowing her brown hair over her face and her struggle to keep them off finally ended when we hugged and went inside. I was hardly able to take my eyes off her. I almost forgot her gift in the security check area. It was a rooftop restaurant and the evening sky was making a perfect ambiance. We clicked pictures and talked and talked. The food wasn’t great but at this point, but we didn’t seem to care as much because our souls were satiated. But we did decide that for the next meet we go for street food. Stupid high-end restaurants! Most importantly, we were no more just online buddies. And that was our first picture together 🙂
One of the toughest questions before us was of how we were going to proceed because of the long distance. I did put her on spot with a couple of questions in regard to her willingness to move to the US and it was a tough one for her. It’s just that she believes in unconditional love and because of LDR it had become conditional. She seemed to have not liked arranged marriages for this very reason. I am a hopeless romantic myself, but I had my reasons behind asking those questions. I do apologize to her for that, but she knew where I was coming from. All I can say is I owe her big time. Or should I say, my charm was still doing the magic I needed 😉 After our first meet we did let our families know about it and had a small family get together. We spent that entire week together and that was some amazing time. We spent most of the time in traveling places, watching movies and shopping. I think traveling together should be the ultimate test to see if you guys can handle each other. We created some beautiful memories in a short span of time we had together. Damn! Theory of relativity!
We resumed our normal life thereafter. We are holding it well together in our long-distance relationship which is a challenge in itself. I thank our parents for introducing me to her, as well as for being so patient with us and supporting us. I must say that this has been a more than decent arrangement after all, just that we did not consider someone eating a f**king bat in f**king China!
To our awaited meeting…